1. angrynativefeminists:

    bakongo:

    Violence Against Native Women is Not Traditional:  Whisper at Ted x ABQWomen

    I want every white person to look at this and understand, “Sexy Indian” costumes are detrimental.
    That hypersexualizing our sacred garb is detrimental.
    That for Native women the fear isn’t, ‘if’, it’s ‘when’

    For the of the gods, trust and believe that is the reality we must live with and by doing the above, you are only making it worse.

    What strikes me most about this is that this is how our nation was begotten, in the name and actions of a man who has his own federal holiday- Christopher Columbus, whose origins are that of a religious order founded by white men. All I can say is that is FUBAR.

    (Source: babyghosts, via dragonsupremacy)

  2. "For those of you who think that radical feminists exaggerate or cherry-pick the worst of the porn industry, I have an experiment for you. Type ‘porn’ into Google and click around the most well-travelled websites that appear. With mind-numbing repetition you will see gagging, slapping, verbal abuse, hair-pulling, pounding anal sex, women smeared in semen, sore anuses and vaginas, distended mouths, and more exhausted, depleted and shell-shocked women than you can count. You will not see two people having sex; you will see images depicting a level of physical cruelty that would not be out of place in an Amnesty International campaign.

    One of the only studies of contemporary pornographic content found that the majority of scenes from fifty of the top-rented porn movies contained both physical and verbal abuse targeted against the female performers. Physical aggression – including spanking, open-hand slapping and gagging – occurred in over 88% of scenes, while expressions of verbal aggression – calling the woman names such as ‘bitch’ or ‘slut’ – were found in 48%. The researchers concluded that ‘if we combine both physical and verbal aggression, our findings indicate that nearly 90 per cent of scenes contained at least one aggressive act, with an average of nearly twelve acts of aggression per scene’. [x]

    That this is the major form of sex education for men should be taken very seriously by the women’s movement. The same men who get off from women being brutalised and called cunts, sluts, and cum-dumpsters are the ones who go on to become politicians, corporate executives, judges, media professionals, policy makers and bankers. In other words, they become the economic and cultural elite that shape the material and ideological world that determines how women – and their children – will live. Most of them will become partners and fathers. To assume that porn is mere fantasy and does not impact on the way men think and feel is to ignore decades of research on how images frame our social construction of reality."

    "Porn and the Misogyny Emergency" — Gail Dines (via bemyonlyflame)

    I have recently become a raging fan of Prof. Gail Dines.

    (Source: youhauntyourbagofbones, via dragonsupremacy)

  3. can-you-not-my-spooky-son:

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    okay so in my city there’s this billboard and nobody knows what it’s about or who it’s from, it’s just here

    there’s no name

    this is all it says

    "I’m concerned about the blueberries"

    that’s it

    "I’m concerned about the blueberries"

    OF course they are! Don’t you know why? Because blueberries are our friends, that’s why! (recall the commercial where the little boy said that and you’ll get my meaning)

    (Source: can-you-not-my-gayward-son, via pholotinshep)

  4. ASK EMMA #8 by emmablackery

    Ah, men and their issues with chest size. I wonder whether anyone has ever done a study of the preferences of men whose mothers were gifted with attributes other than noticeably large breasts? Personally, I care less about a woman’s breasts (whether they exist or have been removed) than where her head is at, her hygiene, and her voice, and whether she is comfortable with what nature gave her. Of course all this is moot, since her/your/their breasts are really none of my friggin’ beeswax anyhoo. Unless, of course, I’m invited.

    (Source: wildcosmia, via dragonsupremacy)

  5. "Yes, false rape accusations happen. Run the protocol anyway. I’ve heard that perhaps the military has the highest number of ‘em. True or not, RUN THE PROTOCOL ANYWAY. Because in 15 years of investigating rape accusations, I can count those that panned out as false on one hand. Meanwhile, the one time I almost skipped the protocol, the one time I almost didn’t believe a petty officer, because I was naive as an investigator and a young woman, because her commanding officer described her as “a party girl, always late, always out drinking, don’t bother with this one”, she turned out to be the victim of one of the most brutal assaults I’ve ever investigated. She shouldn’t have still been -alive-, let alone up and making the accusation. So let me repeat: five false accounts in fifteen years. And one time I almost failed a woman ‘cause of the bullshit way it’s normal to talk about us. Take your shipmates’ word, and then run the protocol. Every. Single. Time."

     - JAG lawyer, speaking to my husband’s plant during Sexual Assault Prevention Month. (via circusbones)

    This deserves much wider circulation. Worldwide to LE agencies, if not more.

    (via pholotinshep)

  6. feministbadwolf:

    xthegirlwithkaleidoscopeeyesx:

    *obnoxious adult voice*

    Aren’t you a bit young to say you want to smash the patriarchy, trash tradition and rebel against the system?

    *Phineas’ voice*

    Yes. Yes I am.

    No such thing as ‘too young’ where the wisdom and spirit are in communion with the truth.

    (via pholotinshep)

  7. gynocraticgrrl:

    Title of Talk: From the Personal is Political to the Personal is Personal: Neo-liberalism and the Defanging of Feminism.

    Gail Dines, PhD Professor of Sociology and Women’s Studies, Wheelock College, Boston, MA. Author of Pornland: How Porn has Hijacked our Sexuality, July 2012.

    The major problem in our world is that the vast majority of people fail to use their intellect sufficiently to ascertain these simple precepts, and as a result, suffer and toil in ignorance, never being a part of the change they know is necessary yet have no clue about how to begin conceptualizing. Thank our lucky stars we have Prof. Dines to educate and enlighten the next generation of (potential) thinkers and doers. Otherwise, feminism might stagnate, or, much worse, lose currency and relevancy for the next generation. That would truly be tragic.

  8. "

    Amy Poehler was new to SNL and we were all crowded into the seventeenth-floor writers’ room, waiting for the Wednesday read-through to start. There were always a lot of noisy “comedy bits” going on in that room. Amy was in the middle of some such nonsense with Seth Meyers across the table, and she did something vulgar as a joke. I can’t remember what it was exactly, except it was dirty and loud and “unladylike.”

    Jimmy Fallon, who was arguably the star of the show at the time, turned to her and in a faux-squeamish voice said, “Stop that! It’s not cute! I don’t like it.”

    Amy dropped what she was doing, went black in the eyes for a second, and wheeled around on him. “I don’t fucking care if you like it.” Jimmy was visibly startled. Amy went right back to enjoying her ridiculous bit. (I should make it clear that Jimmy and Amy are very good friends an there was never any real beef between them. Insert penis joke here.)

    With that exchange, a cosmic shift took place. Amy made it clear that she wasn’t there to be cute. She wasn’t there to play wives and girlfriends in the boys’ scenes. She was there to do what she wanted to do and she did not fucking care if you like it.

    I think of this whenever someone says to me, “Jerry Lewis says women aren’t funny,” or “Christopher Hitchens says women aren’t funny,” or “Rick Fenderman says women aren’t funny…Do you have anything to say to that?”

    Yes. We don’t fucking care if you like it.

    "
    Tina Fey, Bossypants  (via ceedling) How I feel about the mind of Tina Fey: I stop short of full-blown worship, out of respect for my life partner of 8 years, Stephanie. After all, I don’t want to hurt, offend, or disrespect Steph, and, yeah, she can kick my ass! Also, she has one of the sharpest minds I know of. From any gender.

    (Source: embryodanika, via weloveradfems)

  9. Word. Reversal will only come through revolt:"God forbid we should ever be 20. years without such a rebellion. The people can not be all, and always, well informed. The part which is wrong will be discontented in proportion to the importance of the facts they misconceive. If they remain quiet under such misconceptions it is a lethargy, the forerunner of death to the public liberty. We have had 13 states independent 11 years. There has been one rebellion. That comes to one rebellion in a century and a half for each state. What country ever existed a century and a half without a rebellion? And what country can preserve it’s liberties if their rulers are not warned from time to time that their people preserve the spirit of resistance? Let them take arms. The remedy is to set them right as to facts, pardon and pacify them. What signify a few lives lost in a century or two? The tree of liberty must be refreshed from time to time with the blood of patriots and tyrants. It is it’s natural manure. “
- Thomas Jefferson to William Stephens Smith, Paris, 13 Nov. 1787[2]

    Word. Reversal will only come through revolt:
    "God forbid we should ever be 20. years without such a rebellion. The people can not be all, and always, well informed. The part which is wrong will be discontented in proportion to the importance of the facts they misconceive. If they remain quiet under such misconceptions it is a lethargy, the forerunner of death to the public liberty. We have had 13 states independent 11 years. There has been one rebellion. That comes to one rebellion in a century and a half for each state. What country ever existed a century and a half without a rebellion? And what country can preserve it’s liberties if their rulers are not warned from time to time that their people preserve the spirit of resistance? Let them take arms. The remedy is to set them right as to facts, pardon and pacify them. What signify a few lives lost in a century or two? The tree of liberty must be refreshed from time to time with the blood of patriots and tyrants. It is it’s natural manure. “

    - Thomas Jefferson to William Stephens Smith, Paris, 13 Nov. 1787[2]

    (Source: gynocraticgrrl)

  10. we love radical feminism: thecallofthewild: home-of-amazons: ironfoxe: nextyearsgirl:...»

    gynocraticgrrl:

    thecallofthewild:

    home-of-amazons:

    ironfoxe:

    nextyearsgirl:

    textualcategory:

    maddishraddish:

    textualcategory:

    i remember around the time that i started questioning whether i fit in with the libfem community on tumblr a popular blogger i followed made a post about how during sex her boyfriend choked her too hard/the “wrong” way and she couldn’t breathe and she was worried she might pass out, and no one even batted an eyelash. instead of being concerned that she was being abused by her boyfriend, her followers sent her messages about the “right” method to use while choking during sex. that was a huge wake up call for me.

    Wow, this might be impossible for you to comprehend, but women can consent to sex. Did you know that? So if she wants that man to choke her—even choke her until she passes out—that’s her choice and her goddamn body. 

    If she did not consent to that man choking her during sex, theeeen it’s assault. 

    Consent. Woman are capable of it. 

    do you really think that you are doing anything other than reaffirming my original experience/point? i’m sorry that comments like this threaten a culture that sexualizes violence against women to the point that it is aggressively defended against any sort of criticism. i definitely see a problem with a woman being seriously injured by a man during sex to the point that she passes out or worse. consent is clearly a grey area in a society that raises women to be aroused by their own abuse. so yes, the fact that the first reaction people have to a teenage girl posting that the man she’s involved with was choking her so vigorously that she was worried about passing out is to message her tips for him to safely abuse her rather than offering concern for her wellbeing, is an issue.

    People on this website (and in sex pozzie feminism as a whole) need to stop talking about consent as if it is the last word in sexual ethics. Consent is an essential facet of an ethical act, but not all acts which are consensual are ethical. Consensual murder and consensual cannibalism are not ethical or moral acts, but when it comes to what gets people off we deaden all thought by screaming “consent! consent!” over and over again as if it erases the ethical harm of harming someone else in the name of orgasm.

    Women are capable of consent. Men are also capable of realizing that just because something feels good doesn’t mean it’s a good thing to do, and “she wants me to” does not erase the context of committing violence against another person, nor does it even approach considering the overarching cultural context which might influence consent by treating violence, male aggression, and sexuality as inextricably intertwined forces.

    THIS is why I hate the sex positive movement. The amount of bending over backwards to defend sexual brutality against women is astounding. Who cares that a woman was nearly choked out by her intimate partner in a culture where she’s been conditioned to glamorize that kind of behavior in the first place? Who cares if women are groomed to be submissive from childhood and taught to accept their pain as a natural part of sexuality? The most important thing is to maintain the illusion of consent!!! because otherwise we might have to admit that a man abusing a woman for sexual gratification is disgusting misogyny and that could lead to the sex poz movement’s worst nightmare: killing a dude’s precious boner.

    Sex pozzies always, always focus on the (actual or perceived) consent of the individual woman because if they focused on ANYTHING else about the situation (social conditioning, sadistic and coercive men, dangers involved) their “but consent!!!” rhetoric falls apart. And they know it. Consent is the beginning, not the end, of the conversation because patriarchy teaches, encourages, and coerces women to consent to things they don’t want all the time.

    CHOKING PEOPLE IS LIFE-THREATENING. DO YOU STUPID SEX POS IDIOTS UNDERSTAND THIS? CHOKING PEOPLE IS LIFE-THREATENING. MEN HAVE CHOKED WOMEN TO DEATH DURING BDSM/KINK/BONDAGE “GAMES.” SUPPORTING THE ENDANGERMENT OF WOMEN’S LIVES FOR MEN’S BONERS IS MISOGYNISTIC, MALE-APPEASING BULLSHIT AND ABSOLUTELY ANTI-FEMINIST.

    You want to know what kind of men enjoy choking women? You want to know what goes on in their minds, what they get out of it? Here, have the perspective of a violent, sociopathic, woman-hating bag of dicks:

    Choking works because it’s a show of dominance. Women only want to have consensual sex with men they know could rape them.

    [detailed instructions on how to choke women “correctly,” click link for the entire horrifying post]

    "I like choking a woman right up until her eyes almost go lifeless. Women also love this. Once the life returns to her, it’s as if she came back from the other side.

    I’ve also choked women unconscious. It’s no cause for alarm. She’ll be fine once you release the pressure from her carotid arteries, thus allowing blood flow to return to her brain.

    You should also choke your girl when standing around. Consider it “choke PDA.” When she acts up, apply pressure to her carotid arteries by squeezing your biceps. – like a one-half rear naked choke.

    Once you start choking women, you’ll be addicted. Women love it, too.

    Choking is also a useful indicator of your alphaness.

    If women do not regularly let you choke them, your game is weak. You are giving off a weak, vagina-drying vibe.”

    This piece of male garbage assumes that all or most women enjoy having men throttle them into unconsciousness and that choking a woman IN PUBLIC who “acts up” (what does that mean—that she does something he doesn’t like?!) is fun and cool and acceptable.

    It says a lot about whom the sex positive movement really benefits when self-professed feminists are cheering on violent, sadistic misogynists.

    Even those in BDSM/kink communities discourage the practice of “breath play” due to the fact that there is no safe way to choke someone. Consider:

    “1. Anytime there is pressure put on the neck, such as with choking you run the risk of causing severe and perhaps permanent damage to the carotid arteries. This may lead to numbness, weakness, dizziness and difficulties speaking.

    2. The larynx is incredibly fragile and easily injured; pressure to the larynx should be avoided at all costs. Any injury, even a minor injury to the larynx, may cause swelling of the airways leading to coughing, choking and inability to speak, and possibly the inability to breath.

    3. While choking someone the airway may become obstructed by the tongue. Swelling of the tongue and lips is quite normal when someone is being choked. Unfortunately it is impossible to tell just how much swelling is going to occur, since each individual is different, it is also impossible to tell when the swelling will reach that dangerous level.

    4. Also the reduction of blood flow to the brain tissues during choking may cause ischemia. Since blood contains both oxygen and glucose, when ischemia occurs, it can lead to hypoxia which is a reduction of oxygen to the brain, as well as hypoglycemia which is low blood glucose level. Prolonged hypoxia – ischemia is associated with Ischemic Attack (stoke), Transient, Brain Infarction, Brain Edema, Coma and other conditions.

    5. Another associated physical problem is cerebral anoxia. Hypoxia is the reduced oxygen flow to the brain; anoxia is the total absence of oxygen within the brain tissue. If oxygen is prevented from reaching the tissues for too long, tissue death can occur. If severe, it can cause irreversible brain damage. Less severe cases can cause sensory distortions and hallucinations. Hence pressure on the carotid arteries can lead to ischemia, which is directly associated with hypoxia and if the restriction of oxygen to the brain continues for more than three to five minutes then cerebral anoxia is a very real possibility. If the circulation to the brain is insufficient for more than three to five minutes the consequent damage can lead to death even days or weeks after the initial incident.

    6. The lack of blood flow to the brain may also force the heart to beat more rapidly or beat erratically in an effort to increase the level of blood to the brain; hence, heart arrhythmia.

    7. Oxygen deprivation of the heart or anoxaemia will trigger what is called premature ventricular contractions or PVC’s for short. Basically the lower the heart gets on oxygen the more PVC’s it generated and the more vulnerable to their effect the heart will become, thus this will increase the possibility of ventricular fibrillation and the risk of its causing a cardiac arrest. There is no way to know when this will happen to a particular person, during a particular session, not even with the most advanced cardiac monitors available.”

    You don’t know when the person you’re suffocating is going to pass out, you don’t know how much pressure will severely harm or kill her, you don’t know if some medical issue she may have will make the act even more dangerous, you might not even know if she wants you to stop if you’ve also restricted her ability to revoke consent nonverbally, you just don’t know.

    Is it too much to ask that people stop romanticising and encouraging violence against women and the sexualisation of acts upon women that can cause serious injury and death?

    Lol what am I thinking, of course it is. Sex pozzies hate women.

    Wow if there has ever been something that needs to be on my blog this is it.

    Can’t think of anything to add, except that why aren’t women chocking the shite out of men who try choking them in the first place? Kick him in the bollocks, grrl, and he’ll soon figure out you’re NOT his playtoy, but (HORRORS!) ACTUALLY A HUMAN BEING> with rights, feelings, desires, quirks, preferences, and IDEAS of YOUR OWN onn what turns you on (and what turns you OFF). I have to wonder when we men EVER began to figure that it’s OUR OWN WISHES which matter most. I mean WTF already? Yes, I’m a white guy, and I am weird. “Weird’s all I’ve got, that and my sweet style!” (borrowed/stolen from the black male character Moss in one of the The IT Crown episodes-without permission).

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